So there’s a quote.
I can’t find it right now but basically it says the following in an analogy about life: “The trick is to get your foot on the pedal at the right time, going the right direction, at the right speed, and keep it there for the right amount of time.”
Balance is the name of the game.
There are so many things that seem to contradict each other when in reality they just need balance.
Here’s a list of examples:
Being an “Expert”
“I’m not an expert, I can’t teach or sell what I know” – this is one side of the spectrum that keeps people in fear and makes them never share what they do know
“I’m an expert, therefore I know everything there is to know and everyone should listen to me” – this is the other side.
The reality is that all people exist on a continuum on this scale. Even those who have spent years and years in their field don’t know everything there is to know about a subject – although they probably know most things there are to know.
Those who just started yesterday surely don’t know enough to help most, but they can help those who are just starting today.
You’re never a fraud until you say something untrue. If you’re selling something, be truthful about your background and results, but don’t be shy either. You’ll win many people over this way.
Work and Leisure
“I just want to be financially independent and never have to work” – One side
“Human beings are made for work, we should work all the time” – The other
The reality is that if you never had to work at anything you’d become depressed. The load is part of the thing that makes life vibrant and enjoyable. On the other hand, if you work too much, you’re done for as well, you’ll burn yourself out.
Confidence and Humility
No one likes an egomaniac.
Self-deprecating people who never live up to their potential are also extremely frustrating to deal with.
Where’s the balance here? Well, it depends on each situation.
Talking and Doing
I can’t stand people who have never really done what they teach. Even if they can get results for their students, they will unwittingly lead them down the wrong path.
A crazy story about this is a California governor hopeful who wrote a book about him winning the campaign before he ever won. By the time he finished the book, he had no reason to win because he had already experienced it by talking about it – he lost all motivation.
On the other hand, if you only do, you can’t share what you’ve learned with others who might benefit from what you’ve learned.
And through the doing, you have more interesting things to talk about.
So what’s the solution?
Balance. You need to put enough pressure on that gas pedal at the right times.
But here’s the reality – no one has it perfect. The day to day is so difficult to master for a reason. Keep chugging.